Bill’s latest blog “What is love?” got me thinking.
He mentions the observer effect and how in Quantum physics the observer’s attention collapses the wave into a particle. This means what we give our attention to becomes our reality.
So what happens when we encounter a problem. We talk about “fixing” a problem and I suppose given what Bill is saying, that is right. By focusing our attention on the “problem” we collapse the wave and literally “fix” the problem!
When Bill and I set up acreativespace we were clear that it was not about “fixing” broken kids. I don’t think we realised at the time what we were saying but three years down the line I realise we were spot on. By looking at childen in terms of all the things they couldn’t do we would have been “fixing” them. Collapsing the wave and stifling their potential with a label, “dyslexic”, dyspraxic”, “ADD”, “Autistic”.
Realising this I have been wondering about all the problems I have been “fixing”. By giving them attention am I actually creating them? As Bill points out, “Where the attention goes the energy flows.”
How do you deal with a problem without making it worse? We always advise parents to be curious about their child’s behaviour. We say we have never met a naughty or stupid child....just one who we don’t understand yet. So when a child does something they don’t appreciate we suggest that rather than getting annoyed they become curious. This stops them resisting the child’s beviour because as we know, “What you resist persists!”
So maybe it is time to take my own advice and become curious about some of the problems I am trying to fix. Curiousity killed the cat but could it be my new best friend?
Thursday 31 May 2012
Tuesday 22 May 2012
What is Love?
My last blog left me pondering the question...what is love?
The question came about following an exploration of the concepts behind Adamantine particles and the idea that matter was brought into being through the FORCE called LOVE.
In order to really grasp this I had to look at the use of the word love and found myself eventually replacing the word love with the word attention.
To explain this I will use the term love in lower case to explore its current usage and the word LOVE in upper case to explore the force of creation, sometimes known as God.
In the third dimensional world of conditionality love has become subject to the usual dualist distinctions. Love is a good thing and its absence is associated with the nasties of fear or hate. In short love has become a conditonal expression of approval of behaviours and people we like (or people who like us!). Our declaration of love before God in our marriage vows is a conditional contract of predetermined behaviour.
That is not to say we have no experience of unconditional love, its just that in those moments you no longer reside in third dimension, you have accessed a portal to a higher dimensional experience.
So what of this other LOVE? The LOVE which to me is interchangeable with ATTENTION. We are all familiar with the phrase "Where attention goes the energy flows". This is not just the statement underlying the Law of Attraction but is exemplified by the observer effect in Quantum physics. The observer's attention collapses the wave into a particle. To put it another way, that to which we give our attention becomes our reality. Whatever we LOVE comes into being. LOVE is the FORCE which brings matter into being.
At this point all the New Agers start hugging each and try to love a better planet into being. Good luck!
So why are we failing? Why haven't they hugged a better, fairer world into place? If everything is made from love who ordered the nuclear missiles?
The answer is simple...in our world of judgement we have given our LOVE (attention) to that which we judge as bad! LOVE is beyond the realm of judgement, it just is. We are living breathing LOVE machines as we walk around giving our ATTENTION without a great deal of awareness and even less understanding.
If LOVE is simply ATTENTION then it is neither good nor bad. We build nuclear weapons with LOVE, not because they are good or bad but because we give our attention to war. To try to stop war with love is still giving attention to war, so we are inadvertently LOVING war, applying the force of creation.
How do we move from love to LOVE?
The answer to this one is, in my mind, PRESENCE. Presence to me is a state in which all of your attention is in the here and now. You are neither thinking about tomorrow or yesterday nor wondering what your wife or children are doing. In other words your current situation has your full ATTENTION. You are in essence in LOVE with the moment. This is the portal to that unconditional terrain which we associate with the higher dimensions.
The children we see at acreativespace are often mirroring their experience of the world. They often have the label ADD or ADHD...is that LOVE deficit disorder? Perhaps they are showing us their experience of a world lacking in LOVE, or to put it another way, a world where the portal to LOVE is closed. The way to really connect with these children is to be as present as possible and remove the LOVE deficit.
So what are the children we label ADD telling us? They are a reflection of the world they see and what they perceive is quite literally a world lacking ATTENTION, or to put it another way, LOVE DEFICIT DISORDER. We have lost our connection to the moment and in so doing have closed that portal to the higher dimensional experience, the unconditional terrain.
Our experience is that to authentically connect, communicate and co-create with these kids we must first demonstrate PRESENCE, which is another way of saying ATTENTION, which is another way of saying LOVE. No one is questioning the love for these kids, but they require LOVE.
The question came about following an exploration of the concepts behind Adamantine particles and the idea that matter was brought into being through the FORCE called LOVE.
In order to really grasp this I had to look at the use of the word love and found myself eventually replacing the word love with the word attention.
To explain this I will use the term love in lower case to explore its current usage and the word LOVE in upper case to explore the force of creation, sometimes known as God.
In the third dimensional world of conditionality love has become subject to the usual dualist distinctions. Love is a good thing and its absence is associated with the nasties of fear or hate. In short love has become a conditonal expression of approval of behaviours and people we like (or people who like us!). Our declaration of love before God in our marriage vows is a conditional contract of predetermined behaviour.
That is not to say we have no experience of unconditional love, its just that in those moments you no longer reside in third dimension, you have accessed a portal to a higher dimensional experience.
So what of this other LOVE? The LOVE which to me is interchangeable with ATTENTION. We are all familiar with the phrase "Where attention goes the energy flows". This is not just the statement underlying the Law of Attraction but is exemplified by the observer effect in Quantum physics. The observer's attention collapses the wave into a particle. To put it another way, that to which we give our attention becomes our reality. Whatever we LOVE comes into being. LOVE is the FORCE which brings matter into being.
At this point all the New Agers start hugging each and try to love a better planet into being. Good luck!
So why are we failing? Why haven't they hugged a better, fairer world into place? If everything is made from love who ordered the nuclear missiles?
The answer is simple...in our world of judgement we have given our LOVE (attention) to that which we judge as bad! LOVE is beyond the realm of judgement, it just is. We are living breathing LOVE machines as we walk around giving our ATTENTION without a great deal of awareness and even less understanding.
If LOVE is simply ATTENTION then it is neither good nor bad. We build nuclear weapons with LOVE, not because they are good or bad but because we give our attention to war. To try to stop war with love is still giving attention to war, so we are inadvertently LOVING war, applying the force of creation.
How do we move from love to LOVE?
The answer to this one is, in my mind, PRESENCE. Presence to me is a state in which all of your attention is in the here and now. You are neither thinking about tomorrow or yesterday nor wondering what your wife or children are doing. In other words your current situation has your full ATTENTION. You are in essence in LOVE with the moment. This is the portal to that unconditional terrain which we associate with the higher dimensions.
The children we see at acreativespace are often mirroring their experience of the world. They often have the label ADD or ADHD...is that LOVE deficit disorder? Perhaps they are showing us their experience of a world lacking in LOVE, or to put it another way, a world where the portal to LOVE is closed. The way to really connect with these children is to be as present as possible and remove the LOVE deficit.
So what are the children we label ADD telling us? They are a reflection of the world they see and what they perceive is quite literally a world lacking ATTENTION, or to put it another way, LOVE DEFICIT DISORDER. We have lost our connection to the moment and in so doing have closed that portal to the higher dimensional experience, the unconditional terrain.
Our experience is that to authentically connect, communicate and co-create with these kids we must first demonstrate PRESENCE, which is another way of saying ATTENTION, which is another way of saying LOVE. No one is questioning the love for these kids, but they require LOVE.
Tuesday 15 May 2012
Would you Adam and Eve it!
For those of you unfamiliar with cockney rhyming slang (the Americans
amongst you may think of Dick van Dyke in Mary Poppins!) the phrase
'would you Adam an Eve it?' translates to 'would you believe it?'
If you who have been to one of our workshops you will be familiar with my fascination with Adam and Eve, or more accurately the Garden of Eden story. To me The Garden represents abundance and the story tracks man's adoption of a belief pattern based on lack and survival, which lead to competition and separation.
It is my belief that the current evolution of human consciousness is in fact the realisation of our return to Eden. My problem is that this belief is, well, just my belief. Like all of us enjoying this current reality I would like some evidence please! This is the challenge we all face when making change...holding a new belief pattern with enough conviction to see it materialise.
Our work at acreativespace is about changing people's perceptual reality to the extent that their experience of life changes. We have learnt that it is not enough to make a superficial alteration to someone's belief pattern. The belief has to be held with enough stability for it to become that person's experience.
So I asked myself, "what would it be like to have some confirmation of the validitty of my musings?" What would it take for me to really Adam an' Eve it? Or to KNOW rather than beleive.
The universe doesn't hang around and that Friday we had a new client. We ran her son on the Programme. His name? EDEN. We ran the programme on Eden and the remarkable thing about the balance was that it re-counted much of the content of the Garden of Eden story, right down to the Tree of Life.
Ok, I sat up and took notice. Having read thousands of balances from the Programme I knew this one was different.
It didn't take long to get the next piece. Monday morning in fact. I received a call from a woman who had seen my interview with Sandie Sedgbeer and was wondering if the Programme might help her. Her name. EVE of course!
I was getting the hang of it and awaited patiently for Adam to turn up and explain all to me. Adams came and went but with no resonance, until I noticed that the Programme kept presenting the frequency pattern for the Adamantine Particle. I noted that but carried on until I received a module from a Lauren Gorgo (Think with your heart) e-mail course I was doing (CellSpeak). The subject matter...Adamantine Particles.
So what are Adamantine Particles? To quote CellSpeak 'they are the smallest, most fundamental particles...in both manifest and unmanifest existence... that contain the stored potential to form any original substance in our universe. They are the particles which make up the ether (space and non-space) , assemble the atoms of all original elements and make up all matter in the universe...including the sub-atomic cell structure of our bodies.'
So there I had it. Eden, Eve and Adam(antine) all served on a plate! The fun part is gluing all those Adamantine Particles together to create a reality based in abundance rather than the inherited belief in lack.
The secret apparently is LOVE. Love is the force which glues everything together and brings an idea into form. This got me pondering the age old question of "what is love?"
That is the subject of my next Blog and brought me to a number of realisations which once revealed seem obvious but had been long obscured.
Is love simply attention? ADD becomes Love Deficit Disorder, which I think gives a big clue!
If you who have been to one of our workshops you will be familiar with my fascination with Adam and Eve, or more accurately the Garden of Eden story. To me The Garden represents abundance and the story tracks man's adoption of a belief pattern based on lack and survival, which lead to competition and separation.
It is my belief that the current evolution of human consciousness is in fact the realisation of our return to Eden. My problem is that this belief is, well, just my belief. Like all of us enjoying this current reality I would like some evidence please! This is the challenge we all face when making change...holding a new belief pattern with enough conviction to see it materialise.
Our work at acreativespace is about changing people's perceptual reality to the extent that their experience of life changes. We have learnt that it is not enough to make a superficial alteration to someone's belief pattern. The belief has to be held with enough stability for it to become that person's experience.
So I asked myself, "what would it be like to have some confirmation of the validitty of my musings?" What would it take for me to really Adam an' Eve it? Or to KNOW rather than beleive.
The universe doesn't hang around and that Friday we had a new client. We ran her son on the Programme. His name? EDEN. We ran the programme on Eden and the remarkable thing about the balance was that it re-counted much of the content of the Garden of Eden story, right down to the Tree of Life.
Ok, I sat up and took notice. Having read thousands of balances from the Programme I knew this one was different.
It didn't take long to get the next piece. Monday morning in fact. I received a call from a woman who had seen my interview with Sandie Sedgbeer and was wondering if the Programme might help her. Her name. EVE of course!
I was getting the hang of it and awaited patiently for Adam to turn up and explain all to me. Adams came and went but with no resonance, until I noticed that the Programme kept presenting the frequency pattern for the Adamantine Particle. I noted that but carried on until I received a module from a Lauren Gorgo (Think with your heart) e-mail course I was doing (CellSpeak). The subject matter...Adamantine Particles.
So what are Adamantine Particles? To quote CellSpeak 'they are the smallest, most fundamental particles...in both manifest and unmanifest existence... that contain the stored potential to form any original substance in our universe. They are the particles which make up the ether (space and non-space) , assemble the atoms of all original elements and make up all matter in the universe...including the sub-atomic cell structure of our bodies.'
So there I had it. Eden, Eve and Adam(antine) all served on a plate! The fun part is gluing all those Adamantine Particles together to create a reality based in abundance rather than the inherited belief in lack.
The secret apparently is LOVE. Love is the force which glues everything together and brings an idea into form. This got me pondering the age old question of "what is love?"
That is the subject of my next Blog and brought me to a number of realisations which once revealed seem obvious but had been long obscured.
Is love simply attention? ADD becomes Love Deficit Disorder, which I think gives a big clue!
Monday 7 May 2012
Permission to panic
I have found myself thinking about birth a lot recently. Last week I was explaining to Bill that there was a moment during the birth of each of my three children when I totally “lost the plot.” I experienced a moment when if I could have changed my mind, I would have! As each contraction became more intense than the last one, I felt I could not bear one more but I couldn’t stop the process....I couldn’t go back, I couldn’t change my mind. I had no alternative but to experience more pain.
When I was pregnant with Faith, I found a wonderful private midwife called Dorothy and Faith was delivered at home into water. Dorothy explained to me there was a name for the point when I lost the plot....it was called the transition and very shortly after that point I would feel the urge to push and deliver the baby.
So why am I revisiting all of this now? Well three reasons. The first was a passage I read in a recent World Puja Newsletter when Maureen Moss was describing the birth of her grandson.
“I haven't a full conception as to what really occurred in those moments of his entry, other than it was profoundly Divine in its nature, spanned many dimensions, and clarified without a doubt more than I had anticipated.”
I was struck for the first time by a real sense of what a miracle birth is and how I had never really appreciated it before. Although I have given birth three times I did not have any sense of wonder around the process....fear certainly, excitement possibly but never wonder and that made me rather sad.
The second was a beautiful film Carole Senogles sent through which I have re-posted on our Facebook page. It is of Thalasso baby bath and is delightful. I was though also struck by Caroles comment, “What would it take for all our beautiful babies to experience this after their birth into physicality?”
The third reason was listening to Kendall Summerhawk describing the fear she still experiences when taking a leap with her business. I have found this so reassuring. She explains how she has come to recognise the fear and feel it as confirmation that she is taking a leap and is about to experience a breakthrough. Making a leap means leaving behind old beliefs that are comfortable but no longer serve you. You have to be willing to see and feel things in a new way and there may well be a part of you that is not prepared to make that change. But this is growth. You are stepping into a new version of yourself.
It also reminded me of something Bob Geldorf said about organising Live Aid. Apparently he used to go to sleep at night with a pile of towels next to the bed because he would wake up in the night sweating with fear about what he had taken on.
I suspect that when I feel that fear I tend to pull back. When I was giving birth I couldn’t pull back, I had to move through the fear and this produced three beautiful babies. I wonder what else is waiting for me the other side of fear. Gas and air anyone....?
When I was pregnant with Faith, I found a wonderful private midwife called Dorothy and Faith was delivered at home into water. Dorothy explained to me there was a name for the point when I lost the plot....it was called the transition and very shortly after that point I would feel the urge to push and deliver the baby.
So why am I revisiting all of this now? Well three reasons. The first was a passage I read in a recent World Puja Newsletter when Maureen Moss was describing the birth of her grandson.
“I haven't a full conception as to what really occurred in those moments of his entry, other than it was profoundly Divine in its nature, spanned many dimensions, and clarified without a doubt more than I had anticipated.”
I was struck for the first time by a real sense of what a miracle birth is and how I had never really appreciated it before. Although I have given birth three times I did not have any sense of wonder around the process....fear certainly, excitement possibly but never wonder and that made me rather sad.
The second was a beautiful film Carole Senogles sent through which I have re-posted on our Facebook page. It is of Thalasso baby bath and is delightful. I was though also struck by Caroles comment, “What would it take for all our beautiful babies to experience this after their birth into physicality?”
The third reason was listening to Kendall Summerhawk describing the fear she still experiences when taking a leap with her business. I have found this so reassuring. She explains how she has come to recognise the fear and feel it as confirmation that she is taking a leap and is about to experience a breakthrough. Making a leap means leaving behind old beliefs that are comfortable but no longer serve you. You have to be willing to see and feel things in a new way and there may well be a part of you that is not prepared to make that change. But this is growth. You are stepping into a new version of yourself.
It also reminded me of something Bob Geldorf said about organising Live Aid. Apparently he used to go to sleep at night with a pile of towels next to the bed because he would wake up in the night sweating with fear about what he had taken on.
I suspect that when I feel that fear I tend to pull back. When I was giving birth I couldn’t pull back, I had to move through the fear and this produced three beautiful babies. I wonder what else is waiting for me the other side of fear. Gas and air anyone....?
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